Hi, I’m Alianne, mom of beautiful twin boys, 9 years of age. I have been through sexual abuse, rape and domestic violence. The traumatic events that have come into my life ultimately enriched my life. Giving a deep sense of happiness, gratitude, believe, insight, stamina and understanding in life.
People started to ask me how I became so happy, whether it was something I was born with or did I learn it along the way.
I believe it is both and a little bit more. I was a cheerful child. It might sound weird but I kissed the leaves of trees to thank them for being so beautiful (yeah, you may laugh). But traumatic event after traumatic event occurred I couldn’t soley rely on that inner cheerfulness.
So I changed my mindset to notice and to be grateful for even the smallest of things. That learned me that the traumatic events were merely small moments in time while the happy memories were infinite.
But what makes me really happy and grateful is helping another LifeSurfer onto the wave loving and doing what matters to them the most.
After the abusive events I noticed that I encountered the same type of man everytime whether as a loves interest or in other locations.
I realized that life has a way of giving you the same situations over and over again until you learn. And I vowed to learn to recognize the patterns within me and within the other so I could move on.
I stopped creating a life around what other persons did or didn’t think/would do and started to pursue the life I wanted to lead. I always loved to learn so I dedicated myself to learning all about life, psychology and about the women, men and their abusers in these kind of situations. After that I learned about improving life and work and became really passionate about creating a life worth loving.
Whether it is the feeling of wanting more, or learning and receiving strategies to learn to get out the situation you are now, and to never let it repeat again and start living the life that awaits you.
As I learned and grew, I started helping others and that set me on fire.
I think it is important to show you my believes and to check if you can resonate with them;
- You are loveable. You are a beautiful human being.
- There is more to life than watching Netflix every night until 2 a.m.
- I am in control of my mindset.
- If it doesn’t work one way, we will find another.
- We stumble, we fall, we learn, we get up. We repeat. We are LifeSurfers.
- Impossible is not a word in our dictionary.
- Reading, exploring, learning is the key to our improvement.
- Growing pains are natural.
- We can all have the life we love. We just need to learn and understand ourselves.
- In order to create the life we want we need to break free of destructing patterns.
- and contacts.
- We choose our friends wisely.
- You are not alone, you are a part of fellow LifeSurfers.
If you share these kind of values, you will fit into the community perfectly. I hope you learn, share and surf with us.
This is me, doing the thing I most want to do; empowering you, helping you transform yourself, and live a life where you thrive.
This community is like the universe. It’s expanding. We will see sunset and sunrise together. You will learn to avoid sharks and how to use the right mindset if you encounter them. In the mean time you will build your environment to chase the wave to the life you love most.
So pick up your board and join for the ride!